We all have ways we naturally express love to one another, being a good student of your spouse or significant other is what separates the sophomores and the seniors in how we express love.
To continually resort only to what comes natural to ourself without considering the preference of the one you love may be more an exercise of pomposity than you may want to accept.
How best to communicate with your spouse is a relationship-long process, be proactive so you can enjoy the compound effects.
As Gary Chapman explains in his book “The Five Love Languages” (2010) the difference between your emotional love language and that of your spouse could be “as different as Chinese from English.”
Here’s an excerpt from The Five Love Languages related to the power of verbal affirmations:
Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. Solomon further noted, “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.”
Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation, such as:
“You look sharp in that suit.”
“Do you ever look hot in that dress! Wow!”
“I really like how you’re always on time to pick me up at work.”
“Thanks for getting the babysitter lined up tonight. I want you to know I don’t take that for granted.”
“I love how you are so responsible. I feel like I can count on you.”
What would happen to the emotional climate of a marriage if the
husband and wife heard such words of affirmation regularly?
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