FTW.59 Independence and Control

Fatherhood in a Technological World – Message #59

Blogger’s Note: I dealt myself this subject on a Friday night after a long day at work. It’s a tough one to be staring at my computer at midnight. Sometimes you need to break the dogmatic adherence to publishing on your normal day and leave it to your buffer, in my case the weekend.

Another way to approach a tough blog article subject is break it into parts or just self-llmit yourself to write what you are going to write in a 15 minute of 30 minute time span, like an essay final in your English or Sociology class and let it rip with a minimum of rechecking.

Lastly, you could just publish your video with a mere caption for the written portion and that would be the easiest.


Independence and Control

As your child grows and exerts pressure to have more autonomy, you grow and adjust.

In the technologically biased world, the use of technology becomes a benchmark to a child’s level of responsibility and maturity.

As a parent I wish there weren’t the health issues, emotional issues, character issues, and questionable-value Apps that need to be considered, but allowing for those, assuming they can be managed, the use of the iPad, tablet device or other personal smart device, or even a desktop becomes an territory where at some point, you need to begin treating your child’s use of it as if you were dealing with another adult. Not all at once, of course, but a step at a time.

For example, removal or apps and data. If you have a reason to alter the contents of the device they use, even if you are certain of the compelling reasons, you should explain the situation and reasons to your child before altering the device and seek to get a mutual agreement that the changes should due made. Changing permissions, and access privilege can also fall into this area.

While you are still the parent who establishes rules and restrictions on the use of technology, it can be a problem if some rules are adhered to too dogmatically since the iPad as a tool can be an important vehicle for self-expression of your child.

While it may not have been the ideal route for the iPad to become the center of your child’s focus, your ability to appreciate and respect their growing sense of ownership, showing interest in the work that they accomplish using it, will actually help you in guiding them as necessary and setting boundaries.

Yes, it will be a constant battle, sometimes there will be respites in the long journey of parenting in the parent-child relationship, but it takes work.



About Fatherhood in a Technological World

Fathers of young children in today’s modern society are facing unprecedented challenges with the wave of technology allowing ever easier access to the internet. The effect on your children has and will have a great influence on their growth. As a parent, you may be feeling the anxiety of having to confront the challenges of being at the end of the rail of the powerful forces driving technology into the laps and hands of your children.

Your work is cut out for you are a father. Even though popular culture doesn’t do well to herald the value of the leadership role of men in the form of fathers, let me tell you right now, being a father in this time and age has never been more important.

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