Stuck in a Box? Resolve your Regrets

Not the cubicle type? Why haven’t you done something about it yet?

An obstacle source to consider are issues that are unresolved in your past keeping you gazing into your rear view mirror rather than having a forward looking vision. These unresolved issues will work your conscious and subconscious mind.

Are you filled with regret over a missed career  opportunity that you have not come to terms with yet?

I can’t tell you what your privately held regret is, but I can share with you what one of mine was and maybe we have some common ground somewhere.

Being a blogpost, I’m going to give you the Cliff Note version.

Captain Douglas Wright awarded me my Dolphins on August 21, 1983, while underway on nuclear power.

A proud day underway on nuclear power, Captain Douglas Wright awarded me my Dolphins on August 21, 1983.

One of the difficulties I faced was a regret of not being able to stay in the Navy or reenter the Navy. It sounds really awkward to me now, but it was something I went through phases in a deep struggle with myself.

When I returned to school part time in 1998 at the age of 36, my intention was to become a Navy Chaplain. However, getting married in 2000 changed my plans. Then there was a 2 year period where I was in limbo, having returned to the electronics industry to lead a “stable” married life.

Fast forward to 2011, after having two children and having become a License Acupuncturist in 2007, I was beating the bushes seeing how I could enter the Navy Medical Corps. In both 1998 and 2011, I found myself at the limits of age acceptance in the particular programs I was shooting for, given I had 6 years of active duty service already.

After about a super intense two-week fact-finding mission in early September of 2011, where I was on the phone with recruiters and local Doctorate program admission offices, I finally resolved it all: I could not be accepted with my skill set to reenter the military or the Public Health Service Commissioned Corps.

I finally put that dream to rest. Done.

This was one piece of the puzzle I discovered that was holding me back from breaking away from a cubicled (confined) way of thinking.

It was about this time I became driven to further understanding the code of leadership and mentorship. This was the beginning of a new era as I stumbled across Anthony Robbins, which led to Jim Rohn and others.

What turned out to be really interesting was after I finally realized I no longer had any chance of going back in the military in 2011, I had to revisit, in essay form, my experiences and observations on leadership in the Navy when I was serving on active duty from 1980 to 1986.

I realized a major point:
It is completely unreasonable to second-guess my reasons why I chose to leave the Navy and return back to run a family business. I made the best decision I could make for a 24-year old version of myself.

Looking back with the experience of a 49- year old believing your 24 year old self should have done differently is plain unfair.

So it is wise to “be a student of the past but not beat yourself over the head with it.”

What’s your story? Have you got a unresolved career path that you need to get to the bottom of? Please share and comment. I would appreciate hearing your story.

I’ll see you … on the next page

Challen Yee

Challen Yee


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